Feeling judged and rejected

November 22, 2022

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Life and leadership coach for women, mental health maven and soul guide.

I support women to do LESS people-pleasing, perfectionism and over-working ... and experience MORE ease, joy, vitality and confidence.


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Say it with me: I am willing to be misunderstood, judged and rejected.

For it is only in my willingness to risk this, that I am truly free.

Now don’t get me wrong, it is still my strong preference to be liked and approved of (I’m a Libran for god’s sake!)

But this is a HUGE difference between a need and a preference.

When we NEED others to like and approve of us (as I did for most of my life) …

When we’re unwilling to sit in the discomfort of their disappointment, judgment or disapproval …

Then we have no choice but to contort ourselves to avoid it.

And so we (subconsciously, innocently) devote our precious energy to people-pleasing, fawning, self-criticising, over-giving and over-working.

All the while eroding our vitality and wellbeing, and taking us further and further away from what we truly want.

The good news?? Leaning into disapproval and judgement is a practice that can be cultivated.

And in doing so we unleash the freedom within …

To make choices that are truly our own.

To disappoint others to be true to ourselves.

To withstand the judgment of those who don’t understand.

And to live and work in a way this is deeply anchored in our own values, desires and priorities.

I'm Jess, mind whisperer, mama & ocean lover

I'm a former lawyer turned women’s leadership and life coach. 

I guide women who have created their success largely through driving, pushing and controlling, to reconnect with their intuition, vitality and radiance.

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