I work with women to come home to their bodies and build genuine, deep confidence in themselves.
I’m incredibly passionate about this work because I know what it’s like to be at rock bottom on both fronts.
I hated my body for about twenty years, during which time I regularly starved myself on torturous low-calorie spinach-and-processed-ham-only kind of diets. (You name it, there isn’t a diet I didn’t try). I battled clinical eating disorders and paid no attention to any signals from my body. I couldn’t find my voice to say no to things I didn’t actually want to do with guys.
I looked in the mirror and felt ashamed at what I saw Every. Single. Day.
I wasn’t doing much better on the confidence front more generally either. I worried that my best friends secretly hated me. I apologised incessantly. And I had this weird thing where every time I said or did something I thought was stupid, I would visualise putting a gun to my head. At my lowest I was metaphorically shooting myself thirty+ times a day.
And not because I hadn’t worked on it. During my early twenties I saw a psychologist weekly, read every self-help book I could get my hands on and did a sh*tload of healing and processing. It worked, to a point. I managed to recover from clinical depression and obsessive compulsive disorder in that time. (Yep, I’ve been blessed with the full smorgasbord of mental health issues ;))
So after loads of work I was feeling a bit more confident sometimes and I didn’t completely hate my body. Progress ?! …
It seemed that one day I’d be able to finally beat this confidence thing and learn to love my body if I worked really, really hard; processed all of my past experiences; remembered and implemented a million techniques; and was EXTREMELY VIGILANT with correcting all of my thoughts. So I kept laboring along and reciting my 100 affirmations per day and engaging every type of practitioner under the sun to try to crack the confidence code.
Thankfully at some point along the way I stumbled across the three principles understanding and this changed everything.
Through this understanding I realised remembered that we all have innate wellbeing and wisdom within us. Always. Even when we can’t see it or it feels very far removed from our current state.
I came to see that confidence and body acceptance and mental health are not things to find or get but to uncover. That our past doesn’t have to have ANY bearing on our future.
And that it really doesn’t have to be so hard.
It’s now my passion, privilege and joy to share this understanding with women around the world as they walk the path of inner peace, confidence and body acceptance.
I’d love to be your wayfinder/spirit sister/travel companion on your own journey.
Find out more about working together here.
The fine print
- I trained at the Coaches Training Institute, the world’s largest coach training institution
- I’ve studied positive psychology at City University in London. I’m fascinated by the neuroscientific, psychological and cultural factors at play in how we show up in the world
- I’m a Leadership Coach at global coaching consultancy Talking Talent. In this role I support organisations to progress their talented women, and I work with women to develop their vision, strengths and confidence
The fun stuff
- I started my professional working life as a corporate lawyer. I left when I just couldn’t take the Sunday night comedown anymore, and spent the next several years searching for this, my dream career
- Eating a ripe, fragrant, plump Australian mango with juice running down my fingers is my idea of heaven
- Hyde Park is my happy place
- My primary school captain campaign slogan was ‘With Jess you’ll be Heading in the right direction’. How’s that for prophecy?! 🙂
- I’m a total magpie when it comes to collecting beautiful big statement necklaces
- Perfection to me is a night filled with gorgeous friends and delicious vino and cheese
- I’m currently training for the 2018 London marathon. Eeek!!!